The Seductive Character 6 - The Hot & Cold

HOT & COLD

Characteristics:

1. Ability to trap people emotionally, keep their victim in their clutches

2. Cold & distant creatures

3. Masters of the emotional withdrawal. It give people the idea of they dont really like us, perhaps we have lost interest.

4. Understand another quality : narcissism (self sufficient)

5. When you are cold, the victim will give you incessant attention to gain your love & failing

6. Self-esteem is critical in seduction. Low self-esteem repels, confidence & self-sufficiency attract.

7. The less you seem to need other people, the more likely others will be drawn to you

8. Talking endlessly about yourself is anti-seductive, revealing not self-sufficiency but insecurity

9. The HOT & COLD must first be able to excite the target of his attention. At the same time, you send contrary signals that stimulate contrary responses & pluging the victim into confusion.

10. The key is to give pleasure, then withdraws it

11. Tears, anger & production of guilt are tools of the HOT & COLD

(Eg. When couples quarrel, fights & then reconciled. The joy of reconcilment make the attachment stronger)

12. Sadness - it seems deep rooted, even spiritual, rather than needy or pathetic, it makes people come to you

13. Masters of inciting jealously : by paying attention to a third party, creating triangle of desire, they signal to their victims that they may not be interested.

14. Ability to use third parties to make target jealous is a critical seductive skill

15. Hot & Cold is extremely effective on a group, stimulating jealousy, love & intense devotion

16. If you want to play such a role with a group, remember to keep an emotional & physical distance

Danger

1. They play with volatile emotions & therefore it will lead LOVE shift to HATE as times goes by

2. Timing is everything

3. The Cold can stimulate deep hatred. The hatred they stir can be insidious & dangerous, for it may not be counterbalanced by a deep love.

4. Realise the limits of the game & disturbing effects they have on less stable people

Summary

It cannot be grasped. Chase your shadow & it will flee, turn your back on it & it will follow you. It is also a person's dark side, the thing that makes them mysterious. After they have given us pleasure, the shadow of their withdrawal makes us yearn for their return, much as clouds make us yearn for the sun.

KEYWORD : 影子