The Brute - Impatient
The Suffocator - Fall in love too fast
The Moraliser - Rigid thinking
The Tightwad - Cheap
The Bumbler - Self conscious
The Windbag - Talk a lot
The Reactor - Sensitive
The Vulgaian - No taste & inattentive
Monday, October 6, 2008
The Seductive Character 10 - The Anti Seducer
ANTI-SEDUCER
Characteristics:
1. Draw victim by focused, individualised attention they pay
2. They are insecure, self-absorded, unable to grasp the psychology of another person, they literally repel
3. They have no self-awareness, never realise when they are pestering, imposing, talking too much
4. Lack the substance to create the promise of pleasure
5. Argue with unusual tenacity, excessively judgemental
The Brute
1. No patience, concerned only with their own pleasure, never with yours.
( Patient show that you are thinking of the other person, which never fails to impress)
2. They will overreact if you make them wait
Test : Make the person wait & her response will tell you everything
The Suffocator
1. Fall in love with you before you even half-aware of their existence. The trait is DECEPTIVE.
2. Suffer from an inner void, a deep well of NEED that cant be filled
3. They will cling to you until you are forced to pull back
Test : Recognise them by how quickly they adore you. Inability to disagree with you is a bad sign.
The Moralizer
1. They are rigid. People who follow fixed ideas & try to make you bend to their standards.
2. They want to change you, make you a better person, so they endlessly criticise & judge. That is their pleasure in life.
3. Their moral ideas stem from their own happiness & mask their dsire to dominate those around them.
Test : Inability to adapt & to enjoy makes them easy to recognise. Their mental rigidity may also accompanied by a physical stiffness.
The Tightwad
1. Cheapness signals more than a prostitute with money (有钱玩死人, 犯贱, 自己送上门)
2. Most anti-seductive trait of all & you cannot allow yourself to give in to it
3. They imagine that when they give someone party, they are being generous
4. Giving freely both your money & yourself signal a selective generosity
5. Giving too much can be a sign of desperation
The Bumbler
1. They are self-conscious. At first, they may think that they are thinking of you, but in fact they are thinking of themselves. Worry how they look, the consequences of seducing you.
2. Rarely reach the final stage of seduction
3. No sense of timing
4. Incapable of getting outside themselves
The Windbag
1. Talk too much of themselves & talk a lot
2. Deep-rooted selfishness
The Reactor
1. Too sensitive to themselves & not to you
2. Comb your every word & action for signs of a slight to their vanity
3. Prone to whining & complaining
Test : Tell a gentle joke or story at their expense. We should be able to laugh at ourselves but the Reactor cannot. You can read the resentment in their eyes.
The Vulgarian
1. Inattentive to the details
2. Clothes are tasteless by any standard & in their actions.
3. Do not know how to control oneself & refuse to give in to one's impluse
4. Say & blab anything in public
5. No sense of timing & rarely in harmony with your tastes
Test : Indiscretion is a sure sign of the Vulgarian ( talking to others about your affair)
Uses of anti-seduction
1. Use to counter anti-seducer
2. Use to breakup with girlfriend
Summary
In the harsh word, the crab survived by its hardened shell, by the threat of its pincers & by burrowing into the sand. No one dares get too close. But the crab cannot surprise its enemy & has little mobility. Its defensive strength is its supreme limitation.
KEYWORD : 螃蟹
Characteristics:
1. Draw victim by focused, individualised attention they pay
2. They are insecure, self-absorded, unable to grasp the psychology of another person, they literally repel
3. They have no self-awareness, never realise when they are pestering, imposing, talking too much
4. Lack the substance to create the promise of pleasure
5. Argue with unusual tenacity, excessively judgemental
The Brute
1. No patience, concerned only with their own pleasure, never with yours.
( Patient show that you are thinking of the other person, which never fails to impress)
2. They will overreact if you make them wait
Test : Make the person wait & her response will tell you everything
The Suffocator
1. Fall in love with you before you even half-aware of their existence. The trait is DECEPTIVE.
2. Suffer from an inner void, a deep well of NEED that cant be filled
3. They will cling to you until you are forced to pull back
Test : Recognise them by how quickly they adore you. Inability to disagree with you is a bad sign.
The Moralizer
1. They are rigid. People who follow fixed ideas & try to make you bend to their standards.
2. They want to change you, make you a better person, so they endlessly criticise & judge. That is their pleasure in life.
3. Their moral ideas stem from their own happiness & mask their dsire to dominate those around them.
Test : Inability to adapt & to enjoy makes them easy to recognise. Their mental rigidity may also accompanied by a physical stiffness.
The Tightwad
1. Cheapness signals more than a prostitute with money (有钱玩死人, 犯贱, 自己送上门)
2. Most anti-seductive trait of all & you cannot allow yourself to give in to it
3. They imagine that when they give someone party, they are being generous
4. Giving freely both your money & yourself signal a selective generosity
5. Giving too much can be a sign of desperation
The Bumbler
1. They are self-conscious. At first, they may think that they are thinking of you, but in fact they are thinking of themselves. Worry how they look, the consequences of seducing you.
2. Rarely reach the final stage of seduction
3. No sense of timing
4. Incapable of getting outside themselves
The Windbag
1. Talk too much of themselves & talk a lot
2. Deep-rooted selfishness
The Reactor
1. Too sensitive to themselves & not to you
2. Comb your every word & action for signs of a slight to their vanity
3. Prone to whining & complaining
Test : Tell a gentle joke or story at their expense. We should be able to laugh at ourselves but the Reactor cannot. You can read the resentment in their eyes.
The Vulgarian
1. Inattentive to the details
2. Clothes are tasteless by any standard & in their actions.
3. Do not know how to control oneself & refuse to give in to one's impluse
4. Say & blab anything in public
5. No sense of timing & rarely in harmony with your tastes
Test : Indiscretion is a sure sign of the Vulgarian ( talking to others about your affair)
Uses of anti-seduction
1. Use to counter anti-seducer
2. Use to breakup with girlfriend
Summary
In the harsh word, the crab survived by its hardened shell, by the threat of its pincers & by burrowing into the sand. No one dares get too close. But the crab cannot surprise its enemy & has little mobility. Its defensive strength is its supreme limitation.
KEYWORD : 螃蟹
Friday, October 3, 2008
The Seductive Character 9 - The Star
STAR
Characteristics:
1. Standing out from others through a distinctive & appealing style, they make us want to watch them
2. Keeping their distance, letting us imagine more than is there
3. Two stars --> Fetishistic & Mythic
Fetishistic
1. Commands an emotional response & make us breathe life into it
2. Ability to become an object, not just any object but an object we fetishize, one that stimulates a variety of fantasies
3. Principal requirement is self - distance
4. All parts of your body draw this fetishtic attention, the strongest is your face & learn to tune your face like an instrument
5. Your own image & presence are material you can control
Mythic
1. Figures of myth come to life. Assume the pose of a mythic figure. (the rebel, wise patriarch, adventure)
2. Make these connection vague. Your words & actions should invite interpretation beyond their surface appearance.
3. Deal with matter of life & death, love & hate, authority & chaos
Methods:
1. Have a large presence that fill your target's mind the way a close-up fills the screen
2. You must have a style or presence that makes you stand out from everyone else
3. Be vague & dreamlike, yet not distant or absent
4. Dont want people to be unable to focus on or remember you. Seeing you in their mind when you are not there.
5. Cultivate a blank & mysterious face. This allows people to read into you whatever they want to.
6. Stars make us want to know more about them. Learn to stir people's curosity by letting them glimpse something in your private life, element of your personality.
7. Stars are playful about themselves, always adjusting their image, adapting it to the times
Dangers
1. People tire of them - the illusion no longer fascinates & turn to another star
2. Star have a transcendent beauty & too much human frailty will eventually disillusion them
3. Dont let yourself begin to bore them, for boredom is the ultimate social evil
4. Greatest danger is the endless attention they elicit. Obsessive attention can become disconcerting & worse.
Summary
A piece of stone carved into the shape of a god, perhaps glittering with gold & jewels. The eyes of the worshippers fill the stones with life, imagining it to have real powers. Its shape allow them to see what they want to see-a-god but is actually just a piece of stone. The god lives in their imagination.
KEYWORD : 偶像
Characteristics:
1. Standing out from others through a distinctive & appealing style, they make us want to watch them
2. Keeping their distance, letting us imagine more than is there
3. Two stars --> Fetishistic & Mythic
Fetishistic
1. Commands an emotional response & make us breathe life into it
2. Ability to become an object, not just any object but an object we fetishize, one that stimulates a variety of fantasies
3. Principal requirement is self - distance
4. All parts of your body draw this fetishtic attention, the strongest is your face & learn to tune your face like an instrument
5. Your own image & presence are material you can control
Mythic
1. Figures of myth come to life. Assume the pose of a mythic figure. (the rebel, wise patriarch, adventure)
2. Make these connection vague. Your words & actions should invite interpretation beyond their surface appearance.
3. Deal with matter of life & death, love & hate, authority & chaos
Methods:
1. Have a large presence that fill your target's mind the way a close-up fills the screen
2. You must have a style or presence that makes you stand out from everyone else
3. Be vague & dreamlike, yet not distant or absent
4. Dont want people to be unable to focus on or remember you. Seeing you in their mind when you are not there.
5. Cultivate a blank & mysterious face. This allows people to read into you whatever they want to.
6. Stars make us want to know more about them. Learn to stir people's curosity by letting them glimpse something in your private life, element of your personality.
7. Stars are playful about themselves, always adjusting their image, adapting it to the times
Dangers
1. People tire of them - the illusion no longer fascinates & turn to another star
2. Star have a transcendent beauty & too much human frailty will eventually disillusion them
3. Dont let yourself begin to bore them, for boredom is the ultimate social evil
4. Greatest danger is the endless attention they elicit. Obsessive attention can become disconcerting & worse.
Summary
A piece of stone carved into the shape of a god, perhaps glittering with gold & jewels. The eyes of the worshippers fill the stones with life, imagining it to have real powers. Its shape allow them to see what they want to see-a-god but is actually just a piece of stone. The god lives in their imagination.
KEYWORD : 偶像
Thursday, October 2, 2008
The Seductive Character 8 - The Charismatic
CHARISMATIC
Characteristics:
Let people believe you have a plan, that you know where you are going, they will follow you instinctively
Mystery
1. May be both cruel & kind, both excitable & icily detached, both intimate & distant
2. Effect of these contradiction is devastating charismatic
3. Reveal your contradiction slowly, if one shot throw out, people will think you have an erratic personality
4. Keep people at arm's length, keep them from figuring you out
Saintliness
1. Childlike, unwilling to compromise
2. Key is that you must already have some deeply held values
3. The next step is to show that you live what you believe
4. Finally, the appearance of being mild & unassuming can turn into charisma
Eloquence
Words are the quickest way to create emotional disturbance. They can uplift, elevate, stir anger, without referring to anything real
Theatricality
1. Know how to stand on a crowded stage & command attention
2. Essential to be self-aware, to have the ability to see yourself as others see you
Uninhibitedness
1. Show that you are less inhibited than your audience (radiate a dangerous sexuality, have no fear of death , are delightfully spontaneous)
2. Have a dreamlike quality in your work & character that reveals your openess to your unconscious.
Fervency
1. You need to believe in something & believe in it strongly enough for it to animate all your gestures & make your eyes light up
2. Give them something to believe in
Vulnerability
1. Display a need for love & affection
2. Reveal your love for your followers
3. You must never seem manipulative or needy
Adventurous
1. An air of adventure & risk that attracts the bored
2. Be brazen & courageous in your action
Magnetism
1. Eyes is the physical attribute in seduction
2. Indirect communication is critical in seduction
3. Their eyes may disturbs their target's emotions
4. The eyes of the Chaismatic never show fear or nerves
Dangers
1. Charisma is as volatile as the emotion stirs. Most often it stirs sentiment of love. Such feelings are hard to maintain.
2. Erotic fatigue --> moment after love in which you feel tired, resentful. Reality creeps in love, love turns to hate.
3. Too much charisma for too long creates fatigue, a desire for calmness & order
Summary
Invisible to the eyes, a current flowing through a wire in a glass vessel generates a heat that turns into candescence. All we see is the glow. In the prevailing darkness, the Lamp lights the way.
KEYWORD : 灯
Characteristics:
Let people believe you have a plan, that you know where you are going, they will follow you instinctively
Mystery
1. May be both cruel & kind, both excitable & icily detached, both intimate & distant
2. Effect of these contradiction is devastating charismatic
3. Reveal your contradiction slowly, if one shot throw out, people will think you have an erratic personality
4. Keep people at arm's length, keep them from figuring you out
Saintliness
1. Childlike, unwilling to compromise
2. Key is that you must already have some deeply held values
3. The next step is to show that you live what you believe
4. Finally, the appearance of being mild & unassuming can turn into charisma
Eloquence
Words are the quickest way to create emotional disturbance. They can uplift, elevate, stir anger, without referring to anything real
Theatricality
1. Know how to stand on a crowded stage & command attention
2. Essential to be self-aware, to have the ability to see yourself as others see you
Uninhibitedness
1. Show that you are less inhibited than your audience (radiate a dangerous sexuality, have no fear of death , are delightfully spontaneous)
2. Have a dreamlike quality in your work & character that reveals your openess to your unconscious.
Fervency
1. You need to believe in something & believe in it strongly enough for it to animate all your gestures & make your eyes light up
2. Give them something to believe in
Vulnerability
1. Display a need for love & affection
2. Reveal your love for your followers
3. You must never seem manipulative or needy
Adventurous
1. An air of adventure & risk that attracts the bored
2. Be brazen & courageous in your action
Magnetism
1. Eyes is the physical attribute in seduction
2. Indirect communication is critical in seduction
3. Their eyes may disturbs their target's emotions
4. The eyes of the Chaismatic never show fear or nerves
Dangers
1. Charisma is as volatile as the emotion stirs. Most often it stirs sentiment of love. Such feelings are hard to maintain.
2. Erotic fatigue --> moment after love in which you feel tired, resentful. Reality creeps in love, love turns to hate.
3. Too much charisma for too long creates fatigue, a desire for calmness & order
Summary
Invisible to the eyes, a current flowing through a wire in a glass vessel generates a heat that turns into candescence. All we see is the glow. In the prevailing darkness, the Lamp lights the way.
KEYWORD : 灯
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